Feminine vs Masculine - Which One is Better?

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In the old day, our society used to classify people's roles in terms of gender, they have their own stereotype. For instance, if someone was born as a boy, he should seem tough, strong, and say 'big no' for crying or showing their weaknesses. On the other hand, if that person is a girl, she should seem gentle, calm, stay quiet, and say 'big no' for climbing a tree or laughing loudly. How and when they did create these standards? Do they have some handbook and implement it to the life? Or what? They supposed to have a guideline, right?

At the beginning of my post, I wrote 'in the old day', but unfortunately, it's just sarcasm and otherwise still happening for today. Although nowadays the differences based on gender already reduce in several aspects (and I do hope it will keep progressing), this old-fashioned paradigm still influence and restrict the youth. Indubitably that would not be easy to transition the way of life which already implemented for centuries.

Masculinity, that's how our society labelled a man with, controls men to act and react by following the standards - the cliché one. Dominant, powerful, tough, physically and mentality strong, are the characteristics that specifically supposed to them. These dominances causing men having a really serious problem to overcome every obstacle and family burden that should be faced together. They were also limited and restrained to release or express their emotion, which is bring them to suppress everything until become unbearable, and sometimes the final output is - violence, the only way to express. Men are human being, it's okay if they need to cry.

Femininity, that's how our society associate a woman with, usually controls women to act and react appropriately based on the stereotype. Submissive, obedient, silent, and calm, are the qualities that suit them properly. Sorrowfully, those are restricting women in a lot of sectors such as educations, sports, work environments, even though in domestic areas. The social stigma for women who want to become independent, tough, well-educated, and good in career is they hard to being controlled. And therefore, they conclude if the guy should avoid this kind of woman to married with, apparently forgot if they have a daughter someday, she supposed to never rely on a man.

Not only attitude, but also for job roles in marriage life. Wife's roles are to look after, teach, and spend time with the children, do household job, and serve the husband appropriately. It's getting more and more ironic because women's nature is to give a birth, not for doing all of those roles. Meanwhile for the husband, they supposed to become extremely financial-stable, in order to provide his family's necessities. This burden makes them overlook the main roles as the head of family - to become a husband for the wife and a father for the kids, not only a moneymaker.

Those main roles - inherited by ancient culture - is a product of patriarchal society, which is causing a sexist or, furthermore, a misogynist ideology. The world with man as a superior and flawless creature, and woman as an inferior one - servant to support man's existence. All of these facts lead us to live and deal with gender inequality.

We, as a younger generation, should be the pioneer of the transition. We should end this heritage and ensure we will be the last generation who should overcome it. Treat our kids as a human, let them crying if they need, let them climbing if they want. No one better than another, regardless of the gender.

We are human. Stay being human. Not a creation of the stereotype. Be free. Be open-minded.